Tired of Finding What You Really Like ? Why Not Start From What You Don’t ?

Unique approach to know your passion

Wilbert Arifin
2 min readJul 12, 2021


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I know, it’s not that easy to know what you really like. It sounds simple, but in practice it’s not that easy. What do you really like? Well, I don’t fucking know. Too many choices, too confusing.

If it so hard to know what you really like, why don’t you start from what you don’t like first ? If you ask what you really like, you might be confused. But if you ask what you don’t like, maybe it can be easier. This approach is called reverse thinking.

A simple example of it is when you are asked what your favorite food is and you are asked what food you don’t like. Which one is easier for you to answer? Usually it will be easier to answer what you don’t like. Cause it is something that we want to avoid right, so it was easier to be remembered.

Same with passion, if you are confused about what you like, try starting with what you don’t like. At least from there you can avoid things that you obviously don’t want to do. After that the choices will decrease, then you can start thinking about what you like.

Not only passion, reverse thinking can also be used in other things. For example your goal. Most people are confused about what goal that is strong enough to get them excited. What must be achieved? What to pursue?

Well, if you’re still confused. You can use this reverse thinking. Instead of thinking about what you want to achieve, you can think about what you don’t want to do, what you want to avoid. For example, you don’t want to live just go with the flow or you don’t want to live forced by somthing and you don’t enjoy it. That alone can be your motivation!

So, the key takeaway is whenever you are confused about something, you really don’t know what to choose, try using reverse thinking. Instead of thinking about which one to choose, you can start from what you shouldn’t or shouldn’t choose. Instead of thinking about what to do to be successful, you can start from what you have to do so you don’t fail. Maybe it’s not perfect, but it can be a good start to you.



Wilbert Arifin

A casual learner that love to share my thoughts, especially about mindset & productivity. Hope you learn something from my writing !